My parents love me. Just because they nag at me even for the simplest thing in life, I’ve no doubt of their love for me. Many people grow up detesting their parents for their constant nagging, constant thrashing, constant fiddling. I don’t know whether these people doubt the love from their parents. It depends on the personal quality of the person. One who always look at himself/herself internally will try to understand the deeper intentions. One who always look out for people’s flaws will always lament at the slightest hint of such nagging and deem this as interference in his/her life.
My sample size needs not be large. I’m not looking out for quantitative analysis. I’m not a seller for products. Rather, where values, beliefs, behaviour and attitude are concerned, qualitative analysis might be a more dependable understanding of the society. That being said, superb observation is very important.
When I said, drink your water, someone thought I was being authoritative.
When I said, don’t be out too late, someone thought I was holding on to my control stick.
When I said, walk carefully, someone thought I didn’t trust the person to be able to walk down the path. When I said, it’s your choice, someone thought that I couldn’t care much more.
When I asked, have you taken your meal, someone thought I was checking on whether the person took a meal with someone else.
When I asked, what do you want, someone thought I was irritated and just wanted to get things done and over with ASAP.
If a person always wants to find flaws with you, there’ll always be flaws with you. And such a person will not be accepting of these flaws, be it whether they are in existence or not. I am of low EQ. And I don’t use flowery language. So when I meet people who view the world using the same pair of lenses as to how they think others view of themselves in a negative manner, there’ll be existence of doubts. Because they simply couldn’t comprehend and accept that there are people who really are true and genuinely care for their loved ones. Since this doesn’t fit into their concept of how this world is being ran, they condemn people who are true and genuinely care for their loved ones.
It pained me when my loved ones fell sick and especially when one has sore throat. I always have sore throat, painful ones, and I definitely don’t want people whom I love to also develop painful sore throats like me. Hence I said, drink your water (because I care).
Things may happen. Especially when out late at night, more dubious characters appear. More drunkards, more troublemakers. I definitely wish for my loved ones to be safe and sound, not to toy with life, and hence I said, don’t be out too late (because I care).
I’ve seen people trip and fall. And i myself fell down the escalators with blood dripping from the three big holes created on my leg. It was a painful time and horrible period of recovery. I didn’t want my loved ones to ever encounter such a pain. Hence I said, walk carefully (because I care).
I believe in being given choices and making choices. And i respect the decision made with the choice, regardless of how silly the decision might be, how ridiculous the effect might be, as long as it’s non life-threatening, I support the decision. Hence I said, it’s your choice (because I care about what you want at that point in time).
I love food. But somehow when i’m busy and concentrating on my tasks, i’ll miss my meals. This resulted in the development of gastrics and sometimes, giddiness. I don’t want my loved ones to skip their meals just like me. Hence I asked, have you taken your meal (because I care about whether my loved ones have enough energy).
I don’t mind just doing what my loved ones enjoy doing, because what matters most is the time spent and not the activity. Hence I asked, what do you want (because I love to spend time with my loved ones).
In a family, I don’t doubt my loved ones. I’ve never once wondered whether their words have any hidden agenda. Why? Because a family loves, cares, shares and embraces.
Sadly not every one sees things the same way. Some bring the concept of competition into their family lifestyle, and with that, family becomes work-related, about KPIs and achievements, about wants and needs, about dealings and transactions, about profit and loss, about benefits and disadvantages…
Oh well, that’s not my family.
It is a pretty fanciful sight seeing bubbles floating around, very dreamy, but I choose to wake up, because this is my life. Sent from my iPhone